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Rethinking Strong Black Woman

Wednesday, August 09, 2006

I am not okay right now. I get these moods from time to time. Not arbitrarily. Partially due to repression set pussing wide open by some finger pushing, partially due to my watery ways. I need time out for it. I do not feel the need to swallow it whole like bad tasting medcine. That shit ain't good for the soul. And as consistent I am about attempting to debunk the unhealthy strong black woman notion--in these times I find her clothes hard not to wear.

So I have to rethink her. Strong Black Woman is not an ideal. She is the generic brand of emotion black women have to buy because that's all we can afford. We have not the privledge of breaking down and handling our shit. Whether it be time, perceptions of weakness, money, or kids Strong Black Woman's woredrobe comes along to save the little bit we have left.

I do not want her tired ass threads for real. I don't. But being in them and my good threads all out for laundry with no coins to pull them out--it makes it seems as though I have no other options. So I have to suck up the blues. "Distract myself" (strong black woman motherwit) with shit to do. Make these distractions worthwhile (to justify not taking care of the deepest part of me), and move on.

I can't even theorize on her. She got me locked up tight.

uttered by a black girl at 10:39 AM. | 2 comments

2 Comments:

We need hugs

By Omni Loving, at 11:40 AM

I think "the Strong Black Women" came about during the enslavement period when black women HAD to look out for themselves because black men could not.

By beautyinbaltimore, at 11:08 PM

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